The weekend is here again. How was your week? I had a wonderful week with a hiccup. I worked a few days and I spent the rest of the week really enjoying my children. It’s hard to believe that school starts next week. Where did the summer go? I’m glad I got the chance to spend some real quality time with them. I’ve started to prioritize and organize my life a little more. I’ll get into that in a few weeks. This week I want to talk about the value of girlfriends in our Finding Yourself Fridays series.
Last week, after a very long and exhausting playdate of chasing children around, I got a phone call from a friend to hang out. I never get these calls anymore and despite all the exhaustion I felt, I needed to do this. I needed to get out of the house and have some one on one time with a good friend. I hadn’t even showered yet. The house was a mess. We were just sitting down at dinner, but when the call came, I gave a resounding “yes!”. The kids and I ate dinner, I kissed my husband good night. Grabbed a lovely Trader Joe’s Tiramisu Torte from the freezer — perfect for these impromptu situations! — and headed out. My friend and I had a most lovely evening of catching up. While we are both mothers who adore our children to pieces, we were happy to not have a conversation that evolved completely around them while chasing them, feeding them, helping them etc., It was a nice chat over drinks and dessert to just relax.
As moms, we get so centered around our family. I see many moms who completely lose themselves in becoming a parent. What always surprises me is that I see fathers continue to enjoy themselves. I’ve heard on many occasions from my girlfriends, that dad is once again going out with his buddies for drinks, or Dad’s taking a round of Golf or Dad’s going on a mini-trip with his boys. On the flipside, I see mothers who gave up hobbies and other things they enjoy once they became a parent and it becomes the sole thing that defines them. While I’m sure some of the hobbies can remain in the past, we all have a few of those, but it’s nice to carve a small piece of your life, for yourself.
As for my night out with my friend, I didn’t stay out too long. Maybe just for about 2 hours, but that 2 hours was just the break I needed to feel human and in touch again. This week I challenge you to call up a girlfriend and go out. If that’s not possible, just have a nice phone call, with wine in hand, after the kids have gone to bed.